The Relationship Mirror: Deep Dive Tarot Spread for Truth & Clarity

Is it real love—or just a loop dressed up as intimacy?

The Relationship Mirror is a 13-card tarot spread designed to cut through the noise. It looks at how you both show up, what you truly want and need, and the unspoken patterns playing out beneath the surface.

It’s deep. It’s raw. It’s not afraid to name the things you’ve been avoiding—about them, and about yourself.

This is shadow work with structure. A reading for those who are done guessing and ready to see the connection clearly—whether it’s time to go deeper or let go.

Use this spread in moments of uncertainty, emotional crossroads, or when your heart says, “I need to know the truth.”

Position Descriptions

1. You / How You Show Up in the Relationship
What energy are you bringing into the connection? What role are you currently playing?

2. Them / How They Show Up in the Relationship
How does your partner engage—consciously or not? What are they embodying in this dynamic?

3. What You Want From This Relationship
Your conscious desires and expectations. Are they aligned with what’s possible?

4. What They Want From This Relationship
Their motives and goals—whether spoken, hidden, or avoided.

5. What You Truly Need
The deeper, maybe unspoken emotional or spiritual needs at the root of your desire.

6. What They Truly Need
What their soul, heart, or inner child is quietly asking for—even if they’re unaware.

7. What You're Avoiding or Denying
A shadow truth you may not want to face—but that affects the connection.

8. What They’re Avoiding or Denying
Their blind spot or fear that silently influences how they show up.

9. The Karmic Pattern or Soul Contract
What lesson binds you? Is this soulmate chemistry, past-life déjà vu, or an initiation in disguise?

10. The Hidden Block Between You
What’s standing in the way of healing, growth, or intimacy—energetically or emotionally?

11. What Needs to Be Healed (Within You)
Your personal healing work—what must shift internally to transform the dynamic.

12. What Needs to Be Healed (Within Them or Between You)
A wound in them—or a shared rift—that must be seen before anything can evolve.

13. Final Revelation — The Future of This Connection (if Nothing Changes)
A candid look at the likely outcome if both of you stay on the current path. Will it deepen, dissolve, or detonate?

You don’t have to stay in the dark about what this is—or what it isn’t.
If clarity is what you’re seeking, the cards are ready to show you what your heart already knows.

— Babe of Lilith